Singleness is not a Taboo but a Gift! So embrace it

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Why is singleness seen as a taboo and not a gift? It should be embraced not shunned, and it should be shown not hidden.  Have you ever come across a group of people who find out you are single and begin to ask the question of why?! I have! I'm always asked why I am single and what is wrong with me. 

"You are so pretty, you should have a boyfriend!"  As if relationships are based solely and purely on a person's looks.  It is much more than that. It goes beyond physical appearances and lustful feelings. Relationships are not trends that people should hop in and out of, but Journeys that people should take the time to consider and analyze.

Now the question everyone is probably itching to ask is...... Why do I see singleness as a gift?  What is so pleasant about it that it should be celebrated instead of ignored or shunned? What is so pleasant about being alone and being lonely?   Why can't we just be in relationships and be happy? Why must we go through the journey of Singleness before falling in love?  I don't want to be single! I want to be in a relationship! I want to get married!  



WHY IS SINGLENESS SOOO IMPORTANT


As Myles Munroe once said, "singleness is the foundation of every relationship!" Whether it is romantic or not, it is important that you first have a relationship with yourself and God before jumping into the romance or relationship wagon.   As someone once said, "You came into this world alone and you will leave this world alone as well."  Therefore, you must learn to be by yourself and learn to enjoy your own company before being with someone else.  



As Demi Lovato once sang, "your heart is the only one you will have for life."  So take the time to know your heart and treat it with proper care. The most important journey and probably the hardest journey you will ever take in life is the self-love journey.  You must first learn to truly love yourself and know who you are in Christ and in this world before you can learn to love someone else.  

Now the question you may ask maybe... How does one learn to love oneself?  There are different ways to love yourself, but I think the most important way is, first having a relationship with God and falling in love with Him. It is through that relationship, that you learn to love yourself and learn to love your neighbors as yourself.   Once you have passed the examination of self-love, you are then given the ability to create the space to love someone else.  



By this time, you are aware of who you are and what you want, but most importantly, you are aware of how you want to be loved.  As Myles Munroe Once said, when a person tells you they love you, instead of replying with I love you too, respond by asking if they love themselves. Only a person who has gone through the journey of self-love and agape love can truly know how to love others. Once you learn to love God and yourself, you can then enter into relationships designed by God Himself.  

And if you decide you want to be single for life, you have the skills that will carry you through life and into Eternity.  Having a relationship with God is more important than having a relationship with a man or a woman.    After all, not everyone was built to be in a relationship. Some were built to be single and alone.  Alone in this sense meaning whole by yourself with God.   



So whether you are meant to be single or not, embrace the journey with all your heart and with all your might and in return, you will receive a lesson worth learning....... Self-love!   In this sense, meaning selfless love and not selfish love.  They are two different things!! One glorifies God, the other glorifies self!!! Once you understand this, you are ready for love and to love.

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  1. UnknownOctober 20, 2020 at 9:43 PM

    Super insightful! There are quotes there that I would actually end up framing in my own home one day. I think many people NEED to hear this, whether they like it or not...because it's a growing issue in our society, that is just creating more broken relationships thatln it does multiply fruitful ones..

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  2. KayinsolaOctober 21, 2020 at 2:23 AM

    Wow. Thank you and you are totally right. We need to get to a place where we realise that singleness is not a life sentence but actually a journey we all have to go through to become better individuals..

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