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The Romance no one speaks of

Singleness is a romance between you, yourself, and God. There is something electric about it. I can't explain it.  Just waking up every day in the presence of God is something I have always craved for. Now that I am at this place, it is so so unreal and yet so terribly amazing! I love it here❤️ -  Kayinsola

The Economics of Success and The Next Step

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I think before we could walk, talk, or think for ourselves, we were introduced to the economics of success and the next step.  Before we could stand, walk, and jump, we first had to learn how to crawl.  Before we could say full sentences, we first had to utter words that only made sense to babies but were absolute gibberish in the world of adults.   There were certain steps we had to take from babyhood to adulthood to be deemed successful in society and in life. After beauty, I think the next thing people focus on is being successful and the steps they need to take to get there.   We are brainwashed to believe that unless we do things the way society has mapped for us to do it, we won't be successful and we will miss the next steps of our lives.   To be successful, we are always told to follow the habits of rich and successful people to be rich and successful. If it were that simple, there would be no poverty, and third world countries would not exist...   I think along the road of

The Purpose of Becoming

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HaVe YoU fOuNd YoUr TaLeNt YeT? I remember when I was first told that we all have a talent because talents are gifts that we are born with, given by God.   For the longest time, I struggled to know what my talent was.   At first, I settled for singing because I knew how to and because I was in a choir.  Yet for some reason, I was not satisfied, I wanted more. I wanted something that would change the way people saw me. In the process of not being satisfied with my singing, I lost the ability to sing... well somewhat.   Nevertheless, that was okay because I felt that, that was not for me. Though I enjoyed the occasional exercising of the throat, I felt that singing was not the talent I needed to impact the world or at least the community around me.  I later in life realized how amazing and powerful singing could be when done with passion and determination, but by then my singing voice had been overused and under-trained.   At this point, I felt that I had squandered the one talent that G

Singleness is not a Taboo but a Gift! So embrace it

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Why is singleness seen as a taboo and not a gift? It should be embraced not shunned, and it should be shown not hidden.  Have you ever come across a group of people who find out you are single and begin to ask the question of why?! I have! I'm always asked why I am single and what is wrong with me.  "You are so pretty, you should have a boyfriend!"  As if relationships are based solely and purely on a person's looks.  It is much more than that. It goes beyond physical appearances and lustful feelings. Relationships are not trends that people should hop in and out of, but Journeys that people should take the time to consider and analyze. Now the question everyone is probably itching to ask is...... Why do I see singleness as a gift?  What is so pleasant about it that it should be celebrated instead of ignored or shunned? What is so pleasant about being alone and being lonely?   Why can't we just be in relationships and be happy? Why must we go through the journey o

Faith is the Key to open the door of possible impossibilities

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Faith opens the portal to new and unrealized dimensions. It is the key that you need, to bring the things that have already materialized in the spiritual world, into the physical world. With faith, the sky is no longer the limit, because you become limitless.  "For we walk by faith and not by sight" 2 Corinthians 5 vs 7 Boundaries are broken and endless possibilities are realized.  At this point, you are aware that you cannot do life on your own and you need God because, with God, nothing is impossible!!!  Dreams and impossibilities become achievements,  and mountains, whether literally or figuratively are moved. Faith is the key we need to open the door that will give us access to the road, which will lead us into a world of dimensions and limitless possibilities. However,  It all starts with one act....... Believing in Christ! The question is, do you have the audacity to believe?

The Positive thinking movement is a scam

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  Failures are not meant to be ignored or erased, they are to be acknowledged. This sets you apart from the rest.     Acknowledging and overcoming not ignoring and achieving. We all at some point get to a place of disappointment and instead of avoiding the place by pretending it never happened or thinking happy thoughts, we should face it head-on and give it its rightful place.  I was listening to a song by D'Amelio which ironically is titled Be happy but is about being comfortable and okay in your sadness.      The Chorus goes, " sometimes I don't want to be happy, don't hold it against me. If I'm down just leave me and let me be sad.  Sometimes I just want to be lonely. Don't need you to hold me. If I'm low you don't need to care. Just let me be sad. What's the matter with that ." What's the matter with sadness? As LL Martin once said, " negative emotions like pain and hurt can actually be constructive. Motivating us to make importan

Love is as strong as death

Song of Solomon 8:6b-7  for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame.   7) Many  waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned. When I first stumbled upon this verse,  I was shocked to see such a comparison of love to death. Never had I ever seen such a thing. Whenever people speak of love, 1 Corinthians 13: 4 - 8 is always referred to or it is said that love is a verb and not a feeling or that it is a state of mind. I saw a whole new meaning to the word love and what it means and I finally understood God's love for us. Love in this sense has no cure. It is like death! When you die, you are dead. Nothing can bring you back to life except Christ.  Death has completely taken over and there is no coming back from it. You are immovable, and you remain untouched by the things of the world. You can o

If Beauty is the goal, then who is the beholder?

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"Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror.  But you are eternity and you are the mirror" - Khalil Gibran Shouldn't we be our own beholders? Mirror Mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all? In this case, does fair mean white or most beautiful? When I stumbled upon this question, I found it to be equivocal because, for the longest time, beauty has been equated to white. White is beautiful.  Beautiful is white. Doesn't seem so equivocal now that I think of it. We have been subjected to society's scrutiny for some time that we would rather be beautiful than happy! Why can't we have it both ways? Our actions and intentions have been based on the perception of others and how people see us.  We would much rather be beautiful than intelligent.  We would much rather turn heads than turn minds.   Why strive for beauty, when you can strive for brilliance? Why do we care about what people think when it comes to beauty? Why can't we just accept ourselv

Is Christianity a place or the name of a religion?

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Have you ever wondered about Christianity and what it entails? Is it the name of a religion or type of faith? What is expected of us Christians who are determined to please God at all costs? Christianity is not hard when we are focused. When our gaze starts to shift from God to the world, that is when things become hard.  I remember two years ago when I was lying in bed and decided to ask God a question.  I asked Him about Christianity and what it entails. This is what I received......  Christianity is like a place, a country, and its citizens are called Christians.  It is similar to any other country like America, Nigeria, or France.  To get to the place, you need the appropriate documents such as a visa and a plane ticket that will grant you passage. The visa and plane ticket represent your salvation.  Once these documents have been obtained, your journey to the land of Christianity begins.   When you get to the place, you realize that you are free to do as you please but under the r

The fault is in Us

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Shakespeare was right when he said that the fault is not in our stars but in us. The fault is indeed in us.  We are the problem.  And instead of us taking responsibility for our own actions, we choose to shift that responsibility to "fate".  An invincible force that supposedly determines the steps of human life..   This is what we refer to as our stars!  I believe in God and I believe He directs our steps when we choose His will and His way.  But most times, we tend to use the concept of free will to argue ourselves out of holes we used our own hands to dig ourselves into.   Look at the children of today! They are growing up with no role models, protection, or direction.  They are growing up in a world that has been perverted.  A world where some people want to consider pedophilia as a sexual trait instead of a crime.  Free will and the freedom to do as one pleases has been taken so much out of context, that people commit crimes based on rights.   We have created laws with lo